The Denecke cousins up to the point Adam and I entered (Adam in green hoodie)
this enormous and loving family
*if you click on the pictures they will enlarge*
*if you click on the pictures they will enlarge*
Susan, Orv, Eli and Cal,
An hour does not go by where I don't get hit by a wave of
sadness thinking about you guys. I first think about the hole that has been
created in my soul never to be filled again. I then think about what Adam must
have been feeling and cry for his sadness and struggles. My thoughts then turn
to all of you and I struggle to keep myself together. Your sadness and loss
must be exponentially worse than my own and that is impossible to imagine.
I understand you have received tremendous support over the
past several weeks that has provided some level of comfort. I need you to know
that you all must lean on us, your family, to continue to provide support over
the coming months and years. We feel so deeply for your loss and will do
anything to help you through times of struggle. What happened is sad, it is not
fair and hard to understand. These facts will never change and we all need to
figure out ways to pull you through the low points.
You represent the greatest family on earth. Everything you
do, all the decision you have made in life, all come back to "the
family". I try to model myself after you all but I can't compare -
your commitment to family and each other is 100% pure. The fact that
you are such a wonderful family makes this tragedy more painful. I can
only hope that the wonderful legacy Adam left will somehow relieve some of the
pain.
I will always remember Adam by his
smirkish, mischievous smile that said to me "I am happy, I am up
to something, and I am going to laugh when you finally figure it out."
I love you all,
Charlie Jr. (Uncle Chib-A-Pet)
Post Script: Charlie Jr. (aka Nipsy) is the third to youngest of the 10 Denecke siblings. My
boss (who is a therapist also) says to look out for STUG (sudden temporary upsurge
of grief). I think I am having one now mixed with deep appreciation for people
and life.
Adam in Mard's basketball hoop
Patrick (facing away), Adam (catcher's mask) and Kobie (a Coke and a Lacrosse stick)
These three were all born in 1988
2 comments:
That first picture of the cousins is funny--that group has probably doubled by now, right? The next generation is sprouting up! Thank goodness for all that Denecke Love.
Uncle Chib has a way with words. He's another unbelievably fantastic parent whom I look up to as much as you and Orv. I'm grateful to have all of you as examples.
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